“I don’t need validation”:: yes you do, because you need to be validated on the fact that you don’t need validation.
There seems to be a need for people to state that they don’t need validation. That they are glad to be different, to stand out, to be comfortable with who they are and fuck what anyone else is talking about. But here’s the thing. Most of these statements are on social media. And let’s keep it funky, social media is the biggest tool for validation. Whether it is through a like, a retweet, a repost or a shared link, that need for validation is there. Why do you think there is such a thing as being “catfished”? Because people need to be validated, even if it’s by pretending to be someone else.
If you’re ok with who you are, there’s no need to announce it. If you’re the best at what you do, you don’t have to announce it, if you’re the flyest person in the room, right, you guessed it, no need to announce it. But these announcements are made because validation is needed.
Everyone walks through life looking for validation. It starts with your parents, then your peers, then your teachers, then your love interests. Now there is this great thing called social media, and oh my. Validation levels are at super saiyan. Anything for a like or a retweet is the need for validation rearing its ugly head.
I.e. “Oh my God, I’m so ugly” No, no you’re not. You just want someone to validate you and leave a comment saying how good you look, how fine and perfect you are. Light of my life, moon of my stars lookin ass. Boom instant validation.
So let’s cut the shit, we all need validation and that’s ok. We all walk through life needing approval. Even if we want others to approve the fact that we don’t want to be liked, we want validation, for something.