On A Day Like Today: Dani and Vernon James

Dani and Vernon James were married on September 29, 2012 at the Agora Event Center in Conway, AR.

Dani James on her wedding day

Dani James on her wedding day

I couldn’t believe the day had finally arrived! After all the planning, cursing, tears of frustration and joy, the day was finally here! I remember getting to the hotel, having breakfast with my beautiful bridesmaids and laughing and telling jokes as we all got ready. The Day went by so smooth, everyone had great attitudes and got along well. That says A LOT for 10 women trying to get dressed together in one room. Then the time came for me to put on my dress. It was just myself and my mother.

IMG_1539

I will never forget being able to spend that time with her. We laughed and cried and laughed some more.

We took our bridesmaid/groomsmen pics beforehand which was so much fun!

Dani and her bridesmaids

Dani and her bridesmaids

We headed to the Agora and waited for the time to come. I remember when I was the only one left in the room, I could here the music playing and that was the first time my stomach turned. I realized that the time was here, no turning back. I was nervous but it was from a good place. I was so ready for this day. I walked out to meet my Daddy and I couldn’t hold back the tears, I cried from that point on lol.

Dani and her father

Dani and her father

As I walked down the aisle to “Spend my Life” the only person I saw was Vernon. It was so surreal! The ceremony was perfect in every way! We said I do and the rest is history! It’s been 2 years and I am more in love today than I was on our wedding day.

Vernon and Dani James

Dani and Vernon James

BLERG!!!!

I saw an old co-worker at the store and after hugs were exchanged, the first thing she asked me was “are you seeing anyone?”

WHY IS THAT THE FIRST QUESTION YOU ASK WHEN YOU SEE ME?

I don’t know why these questions about my relationship status have been irking the shit out of me lately. There are so many other questions to ask me besides “are you seeing someone”

It’s almost like my worth or success is determined by my relationship status. Can I not live a rich, fulfilled life if I’m single? Do I have to have a mate for you to think I won’t be jumping out of the window of a two story building? Slit my wrist vertically with a butter knife? Eat my weight in Talenti gelato?

I have been bombarded with “You’re 30 and single and have this this and that going for you but you’re single. What’s wrong with you” faceass people since June 7, 2014.

THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH ME. BEING SINGLE ISN’T A DISEASE!!!

Am I starting to sound bitter? I’m not…just kind of fed up with the questions.

I could have been married. Well, re-married. But I just was over trying to make fetch happen just to be married, so I didn’t do it and I don’t regret it one bit.

There are days when I wonder when my day will come. When I will get remarried? But I don’t stress out about it. Cause what good is that going to do?

I’m fine with being single. My life is good. I am happy. And I am happy because EYE am happy not because of someone else. My happiness has never been based on anyone else.  

So people, PLEASE STOP ASKING WOMEN WHAT IS WRONG WITH THEM WHEN THEY SAY THEY ARE SINGLE.

IT’S NOT A DISEASE.

IT’S NOT THE PLAGUE

IT’S NOT A DEATH SENTENCE

When it is time to find your heartmate, you will. Nothing wrong with being single and having fun and doing whatever the hell it is you want to do because you don’t have to answer to anyone.

And next time someone asks me why I’m 30 and single, I’m a tell them it’s cause I got tired of their Daddy’s shit.